intergenerational heated dialogue (4)

In the previous three articles, youth and adults interviewed me, and we talked about 35 values ​​that should be included in the lives of children and youth in educational institutions, the media and the arts, and we discussed youth accusing the older generations of conflicting concepts, especially from the impact of this generation’s behavior that contradicts the concepts of values ​​they claim.

We chose the values ​​of honesty/accuracy/beauty/tolerance/love/cleanliness/freedom/patience/courage/mercy/faith/science/charity/thanksgiving/apology/forgiveness/giving/respect/compassion/gratitude/happiness/friendship/responsibility/citizenship/ Humility / Justice / Perfection / Righteousness / Listening / Respect / Solidarity / Integrity / Participation.

We discussed with the youth the values ​​of patience, courage, sacrifice, respect, obedience and faith, and we disagreed and agreed.

Some have asked me to include some of these values ​​together, and others to raise some of the values ​​from the proposal, such as faith, because they do not belong to the concept of value, but rather it is a gift from God or an instinct created in man.

And we agreed to raise the value of obedience from the set of values, because its concept creates slaves and authority, and we agreed that the intent is to abide by the law, and this is not obedience but rather a responsibility to balance freedom and prevent chaos.

Some demanded setting priorities, because sometimes attitudes may put a person in a choice between one value and another.

The educated and bold young woman said: I put freedom, justice and responsibility at the forefront.

And her colleague said: I put after it as a group honesty and integrity and honesty together.

I said: It is logical, and I will add to it that sometimes we have to explain the value by mentioning its opposite.. The value of honesty, for example, may appear greater and higher in a society where lying is common, and the punishment for lying becomes very important to show the value of honesty.. Because with the passage of time and the repetition of getting used to lying it becomes a pattern. life, and it passes before us without comment, as if that is the reality we have accepted. No and a thousand no, we have to raise the value of honesty and instill lying wherever it is.

A third said: I think that we must adhere to some precision and perfection.

I said: I place with you tolerance, mercy, benevolence, thanksgiving, forgiveness, compassion, gratitude, righteousness and solidarity, in one crucible.

A fourth young woman said: We put friendship, love and giving together.

The dialogue flowed between the young people about the meanings, and one of them said: I put happiness and beauty in the foreground, for whoever does not know the meaning of happiness and searches for it will not find it as you taught us, talk to us about the value of beauty and happiness, Doctor.

I said: I will focus my answer on the entrance to beauty and its effect on human happiness. If you understand the philosophy of beauty and learn how to extract it from everything around you, you will be happier and more joyful. Every happy person will release positive energy around him, and the energy will turn into action and achievement.

My children, beauty is a characteristic that is manifested in everything around us. It is a kind of order, harmony and harmony that has countless manifestations and manifestations. Accuracy, tenderness, consistency, balance and interdependence… and many other manifestations that the conscience feels, even if it cannot express them sometimes.

The human soul that has taste for beauty is the soul that is capable of creativity and innovation, seeing what is beautiful and building on it.

Human nature, without the distortions that we do with it in family education or the educational climate, or the media that focuses on negatives and mistakes, is attracted by itself to everything that is beautiful. It was reported on the authority of the Messenger of God (PBUH): “God is beautiful and loves beauty.” The ability of the Creator, Glory be to Him, wanted to make beauty – in its various forms – a source of human satisfaction and happiness. The desirability of beauty is a common right.. a right for everyone in which a person does not need to be in a position of power or wealth or money to enjoy it.

The human values ​​that we are talking about, the philosophy of ethics, the science of logic, and the philosophy of beauty, with varying degrees of depth, must be included in the conscience of each one, according to the age stage in which he lives.

Be beautiful.. you see existence beautiful, be happy… you see existence happy, and let’s spread positive energy in our country, and look at the most beautiful around us, and the most beautiful around us, everything has beauty. Look for beauty and happiness will come to you, for God’s blessings are countless, for us and around us.

Don’t wait for happiness to smile, smile to be happy.

Don’t wait for happiness, if you don’t want it, and find what makes you happy.

Happiness comes to those who seek it, so know its secret, seek it, and be..with your will a happy person.

The first young woman commented: What about friendship and love? We hear stories about the change of morals and principles of some people who have a strong friendship that lasted for some time and then collapsed with the first challenge, or marriages that started with love and love or lasted for years, after which hatred, courts and conflict began… Are these values ​​relative, as your friend Dr. says. Ayman Al Mohandes from New York in his call to you in the previous article?

I said: Your observation is important and bold. The person whom you admired yesterday, his abilities and his good thinking changes today, and he may turn against you completely, and a state of attraction and tension begins with him, and feelings of appreciation turn into hostile feelings. We see this around us, and such behavior can be observed in the work environment or among girlfriends and friends. Once you see them at the top of harmony and sometimes you see them on opposite sides, and this happens between young and old. It is a behavior that does not belong to a specific age group, but is general and comprehensive in every human being and in every society. Is this due to the nature of the human being, or a lack of awareness of the characteristics of friends and loved ones?!! Therefore, people are surprised by what is within them at a particular moment as a result of lack of awareness, and there may not actually be surprises.

Imam Ali bin Abi Talib says: “Love your lover in ease as he may one day hate you, and hate your enemy with ease as long as he may be your lover one day.”

Does this mean that the values ​​of friendship and love are not permanent? The answer is yes, and they are two values ​​that we must preserve, otherwise they will be lost among the priorities of interests.

Love, for example, must be in a balanced manner, as well as hostility must be without exaggeration, injustice and aggression. In all cases, slowness, patience and endurance are required. People do not always talk and do as we want and love. There are many concerns.

Damage to humans, and interests may coincide and may sometimes conflict. There are priorities in the life of every human being, who may not know that they are his priorities until he is exposed to dangers, even the one he loves.

The message here is that hostility must not be absolute, inevitable and permanent, but we must always make a way to go back and back, and if you close a door open a window. Similarly, in the field of love and friendship, do not bleed your feelings and drain them in vain, but make the balance line always present and present.

The clever young woman said: The opposite idea, Doctor, says that this comes from the wisdom of experience, and from the length of people’s coexistence, but it also immediately takes the feeling that brings its highest levels of pleasure from some extremism in closeness, love, love and jealousy that distinguishes young people and young people.

I said: Indeed, wisdom makes long-term balanced feelings, and takes a little ecstasy, and the extremism of feelings gives ecstasy that may not be long, so do not live a lifetime with a person.

Even in politics, the leaders who moved peoples and invaded countries were often extremists in thought and perception. Which one is closer to your mind and conscience?

She said with a smile: Colloquially, “Who is this over this?”… Every age has its rules, Doctor… We must take from your wisdom, and you must bear with us.